I’m one of the best dating coaches there is when it comes to teaching men how to use dating websites and apps to attract women. Because of this—and perhaps because I’m living in Los Angeles—most of my high-tier clients are busy guys who have money.
They don’t have time to go to bars to meet women. But these men want women in their life, whether to find a long-term relationship or simply for a quick hook-up.
So they hear about me, find me, and I either teach them all I know or the other option is me and my team take over their dating apps, do the messaging, attract women for them and our client simply meets up with these women—and these ladies are already attracted to him based on the conversations they’ve had with “him”—and they’re down to hook up.
When a man goes from having little to no success with women to suddenly attracting them it’s no surprise he’s going to be making up for lost years of failure, now hooking up with women he never dreamt he could attract.
I don’t blame my clients. I understand because I see this happening over and over again by the majority of my high-tier clients.
But unfortunately, with a lot of this wonderful fun comes a risk that lurks in the shadows of society.
I’m talking about STDs.
From just 8 viruses and bacteria there are 20 million new cases of STDs per year in the USA.
And here’s what scares me: according to the CDC 7.5% of Americans have genital herpes (over 24,000,000 people as of 2014).
Unfortunately, dating apps and the hook-up culture have causes a spike in STDs. That’s not only a fact but it’s common sense.
But there is a solution: aside from using protection one can GET TESTED.
And I hear the excuses all the time:
-I don’t have medical insurance
-I’m busy (my high-tier clients are the ones who typically use the I’m busy excuse)
-I’m afraid to get the results
Let me be direct: STDs can cause health issues, both physical and mental.
When I was rehabbing a multi-family property I had bought I was messaging with a woman from Tinder. She claimed she hadn’t had sex in a while and I seduced her.
We met at a bar and she seemed very sweet. She was attractive and I was wondering how good she was in bed.
I took her home and things got sexual and I asked her if she had been tested for STDs—she said yes. Then I asked her if she was on birth control and she said yes.
The sex was really, really good but I regret having sex with her.
I didn’t get her pregnant…
…but she did give me Chlamydia.
I was pissed.
She had lied to me—she later admitted she had hooked up with a guy previously (I don’t remember the time frame but I believe it was a month or two prior) and she swore she had been tested afterwards.
Prior to being told this I went close to two months infected. My only symptom was some slight burning when I urinated. When I finally got tested and received the results I was still shocked to learn I had Chlamydia.
It changed everything for me. It was a slap in the face from truth.
Sure—I had used protection with most women I had sex with but I trusted what this woman had told me and her lie put my health at risk.
I’m much more responsible when I have sex now. I don’t simply trust the woman’s word—I use condoms.
But I know a lot of guys don’t. And even if you wear one you can still get an STD (do you know any guys who wear a condom when they receive oral? Yeah, man—neither do I).
And some guys I know are afraid to get tested because they fear the results—to learn they have an STD terrifies them. But the sooner they learn the sooner it can potentially be treated.
Other guys claim to be too busy.
And yet others claim they can’t afford a STD test at their doctor’s because they don’t have health insurance.
Now, some cities have free STD clinics. I went to one when I finally had some free time; my doctor’s office didn’t have any openings to see me and I spent over four hours at the free clinic a few miles from where I live.
Oh, and then I had to drive back there for the results a week later.
Well, there are ways to get tested that don’t take hours or $600 dollars.
For example, STDcheck.com works with over 4,500 labs across the country to offer 5-minute 100% confidential testing.
If you’re uninsured or are too embarrassed to see your family doctor regarding STDs then this is the way to go. I checked their reviews and STDcheck.com is well-regarded with FDA-approved tests performed in CLIA-certified labs so they’re the people I feel comfortable recommending to my clients and readers alike: http://www.stdcheck.com
We all make mistakes when it comes to sex—in the heat of the moment it’s easy to choose instant gratification over personal health and safety.
There’s nothing worse than regret. Don’t be like me. Don’t wait to get tested.
Get tested. You owe it to the women you’ll be hooking up with in the future and more importantly you owe it to yourself and your well-being.
Again: your physical and mental health are essential and they’re your responsibility.
Thank you for reading.