Erectile Dysfunction Secrets: How You Can Perform in the Bedroom Like a Stud
It’s happened to most guys: you’re with a woman—and whether or not you’ve started having sex, you can feel your D growing softer than a piece of taffy bathed in sunshine.
It’s like one of those buddy movies where a guy is slapping his dying friend in the face and the dying friend looks back at him, his eyes half-open, struggling as he uses all his energy to focus, concentrate, and stay conscious….
The only difference is the ‘buddy’ we’re talking to is Mr. Dick; and we’re not pleading with him aloud—rather—we’re screaming inside our mind… screaming, “WORK, DAMNIT! STAY HARD!”
WE NEVER HAVE THIS PROBLEM WHEN WE’RE ALONE!
I laughed when I wrote the previous line, but you and I both know not having the power to stay or get hard when a woman’s horny, ready and wanting isn’t a laughing matter.
But I’m trying to make this lighthearted because I’m here to put you at ease and help you.
When it comes to ‘dick issues’ I would give myself a 3 out of 10 (ten being most severe).
When I’m with a woman and I’m not wearing a condom everything is great—I stay hard and I don’t have a problem growing soft.
But there have been times when I’ve put a condom on and had trouble performing.
It happens roughly 20% of the time. Maybe it’s that the woman isn’t turning me on enough and maybe it’s that I’m tired, but one thing is for certain—the condom is the issue because had I not been wearing one I’d be hard.
But of course, with all the nasty sexually transmitted diseases floating around, not to mention the risk of making the woman pregnant, wearing a condom is the smart thing to do.
We’re going to cover all aspects of E.D. (erectile dysfunction) so if you’re dealing with something more severe, don’t worry, keep reading.
I remember my first experience with erectile dysfunction. It was right after my senior year of college. This chick was in my parents’ basement with me, it was late at night, and she had come over to fuck.
Prior to her, I had received blowjobs from women all through high school and college and was planning on remaining a virgin until married (seriously), but during my fraternity formal Senior year of college, I woke up to the hottest girl at formal getting into my bed and due to the massive inebriation of alcohol (and due to quickly convincing myself that whomever I marry someday will likely NOT be a virgin), I ended up having sex with the chick and having the greatest orgasm ever—directly inside her without using a condom.
Maybe not the wisest decision of my life but damn, did it feel good!
So fast-forward to me and the chick in my parents’ basement. I had gone to high school with her and she was two grades below me. After lots of kissing, foreplay and eventually getting naked, I asked her if she was ready and when she nodded her head I—for the first time ever—opened a condom wrapped and put a condom on my D.
Long story short, it was the worst sex I had ever had (maybe with the exception of the one chick who—in 2012—rode me wrong and almost crushed my dick like an aluminum soda can).
After the failed sex with basement girl (I couldn’t stay hard), I never hung out with her again.
The magic with her was gone, and she wasn’t to blame.
Over the years I’ve researched and learned a lot about erectile dysfunction. There are varying degrees of it: similar to me, some guys have fairly minor cases and it tends to appear only when they’re tired, feeling off, or if they’re wearing a condom during sex.
However, I’ve come across a lot of guys—whether students or personal friends—who have admitted they have more serious cases of erectile dysfunction.
And by more serious cases I mean guys who have trouble staying hard whether they’re wearing a condom or not.
I have one good friend who has had a surprising amount of women stop hanging out with him because the women feel both unattractive and self-conscious due to the fact he has trouble maintaining an erection.
Despite all his reassurances that it’s him and not them the women often leave him and/or give him major attitude.
My friend has gone the more serious route: he shells out crazy expensive money for prescription pills and takes one a few hours before he plans to have sex.
Sounds extreme, but he’s so afraid he won’t be able to perform he feels he has to do it.
But it’s kind of funny when he calls me and says, “Damnit! I took a Viagra before going over to her place and we didn’t even have sex!”
So let’s cut to the chase: I’m going to share with you the best things you can do to stop your erectile dysfunction from ruining your sex life.
Here they are:
- Trim your pubic hair
Some guys trim their twig and berries and some don’t. The benefits of doing so are several—it looks better, women tend to like it more, and most importantly, your sensations are much improved when you don’t have pubic hair serving as a buffer when it comes to freeing your D to experience a woman’s touch.
Personally, I trim the hair directly below my D and straight up shave my nuts with a razor.
Dr. Evil was onto something when he said, “There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum; it’s breathtaking. I suggest you try it.”
All you need to do is trim the hairs, lather on some shaving cream, and shave your twig and berries. Rinse, apply more shaving cream, shave, and when you’re hairless, you’re done.
When finished I don’t suggest using after-shave to cool the area—apply some coconut oil to your twig and berries. I recommend the following brand.
Coconut oil is great because it’s anti-viral, anti-bacterial, and anti-fungal.
When you have sex with a chick, after you shower, I suggest applying coconut oil on your twig and berries to decrease any odds of getting HPV (human papillomavirus).
HPV causes genital warts, which could result in penile cancer in men (it depends on the HPV virus strain).
And not to scare you, but according to The Cleveland Clinic: “Approximately 79 million Americans are currently infected with HPV, with roughly 14 million people becoming newly infected each year. Most men and women — about 80 percent of sexually active people — are infected with HPV at some point in their lives, but most people never know they have the virus.”
So now you can understand why I apply organic coconut oil to my twig and berries after having sex (after showering, of course); as mentioned, coconut oil is anti-viral, anti-fungal, and anti-bacterial.
Finally—and this is very important—when you shave your twig and berries it’s vital you don’t have sex for at least 72 hours afterwards.
Because shaving down there will likely cause tiny cuts, which could be an opening for sexually transmitted disease or other types of infection, and so after shaving down there you need to give your body a chance to heal in the event you cut or knick your skin. I typically let my body heal at least 96 hours after shaving before having sex, because I like to be safe about it.
And for those several days afterwards I apply coconut oil to my balls and D to keep the area both moisturized and safe.
Personally, I don’t shave my nuts very often—maybe once every six weeks.
BONUS TIME: Another great use for coconut oil (and there are plenty) is to either use it for back massages or even better—to use on your partner’s breasts—because who doesn’t like a shimmering pair of tits?
And although coconut oil can stain clothes and bed sheets—much like baby oil does—you can suck a woman’s coconut oil-covered tits and not have an awful taste in your mouth (unlike baby oil, which tastes awful).
- Masturbate Using a Condom
I once dated a woman who told me her ex-fiancé used to masturbate wearing a condom because he wanted to be able to stay hard when he had sex with her.
Ingenious, I thought to myself.
I’ve taught this practice to any student who had suffered from a more serious case of erectile dysfunction and it’s been beneficial for most guys.
All I can say is adopt this strategy and see if it helps you perform better when you’re with a woman.
In theory, it makes sense, as a guy who masturbates with a condom is going to feel less sensation and it’s going to help acclimate him to a similar feeling much like when he’s wearing a condom and is having sex with a woman.
It’s like those NFL football players who practice wearing high-altitude masks before traveling to an away game against the Denver Broncos, where the high elevation makes the air harder to breathe (which causes players to get out of breath).
Learning how to orgasm while wearing a condom makes sense.
- What condom do you use?
Not all condoms are created equal. Some are thin and some aren’t. Some have lubrication and some don’t. Use the style that feels best to you.
Personally, I prefer the thin condoms as they tend to offer more feeling and sensation. I typically buy the Trojan multi-packs.
- Being healthy
The same friend of mine I’d mentioned previously isn’t the healthiest of guys. He eats too much fast food and doesn’t exercise. He’s got a bit of a gut and when we go for hikes he gets out of breath.
Your cardiovascular health is directly related to your sexual health.
When you eat healthy, maintain a healthy weight and work out, you’ll have more energy and you’ll feel less tired. And when you exert yourself (including when you’re having sex) you’ll have an easier time staying hard and satisfying a woman.
Being healthy to be able to perform in bed becomes even more important as men age.
I keep sugar to a minimum and eat a lot of fruits, vegetables, eggs and meat.
If you’re suffering from erectile dysfunction I suggest talking to your doctor about both your health and diet, and better yet, speak to a nutritionist about a healthy diet tailored to accommodate your needs.
- Professional Assistance
A lot of guys who have more serious cases of erectile dysfunction talk to their doctor about the problem, and when they do they’re simply prescribed something like Viagra or Cialis.
This is fine short-term, but I believe a problem should be addressed and the symptom(s) shouldn’t merely be glossed over by using potent pills with serious potential side-effects.
A good doctor will likely give his patient a physical and order some lab tests as erectile dysfunction can be caused by various health issues such as high blood pressure, diabetes, vitamin and mineral deficiency, and/or hormonal issues to name a few.
Or perhaps a doctor will urge his patient to see a psychiatrist, psychologist or even a psychotherapist as for some men, much of the problem with erectile dysfunction stems from sexual performance anxiety, which is when a man becomes anxious before and during sex, which can cause his sexual performance (and hardness) to suffer.
Now, I do want to mention those erectile dysfunction “products” out there that don’t work.
Although some natural remedies can help (such as saw palmetto, l-Arginine, and ginseng, to name a few), make certain you consult a health professional prior to taking these supplements as they could cause side-effects (especially if you’re currently using prescription drugs or different supplements).
Also, there are “miracle pills” being sold claiming they can achieve outlandish results such as making a man’s dick bigger.
Reality check: pills cannot grow a man’s penis. That’s just silly.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of businesses out there who simply want to make a quick dollar and they know they can offer false claims to men who are in need, suffering and are desperate for a solution.
Don’t believe everything you hear.
For any guy who has a more serious case of erectile dysfunction, I recommend he buys a quality book or online program that teaches him additional steps toward how to conquer his problem.
I only recommend one erectile dysfunction program to my students because many of my students have benefited from it. If interested, you can check it out by clicking here.
And yes, it comes with a 100% money-back refund guarantee if you’re not completely satisfied, so if it doesn’t give you the desired result of staying hard and performing like a stud for the horny ladies who want you, you won’t be out one single penny.
I hope you found this article to be both useful and inspiring.
If you do the things I state above I’m certain you’ll experience more success with women and you’ll be able to minimize and perhaps even banish your erectile dysfunction symptoms from reality to mere memory as you satisfy the woman (or women) in your life with strong, alpha sex.
Take action and watch your life get better.
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